|Manda, me, JR. and Jake|
|Manda and I on the ferris wheel|
JR. is just finishing up a month long series on everything related to Marriage and Sex called Happily Ever After. "What happens on the other side of the Fairy Tale? When Romance is gone and Love gets tough, how do we survive and thrive in what comes After 'happily ever after'?" On Tuesday, I was invited to post about how to survive and thrive when you are married with children. Enjoy!
When Jake and I first got married, there was no such thing as our own space. We didn’t want our own space; instead, we were one of those nauseating couples who simply wanted to be together every single minute.
But as we dreamed about a future family, I started to imagine daily “me” times, weekly date nights, weekend “family times” and regular one-on-one times with each of my children. All planned out at the beginning of the week, posted on our perfectly accurate family calendar (wahahaha).
What we learned as we started having kids, however, is that “life” often threatens to get in the way of the spaces we so desire to create for ourselves and for each other.
School and work continually ask for more of our time. New projects around the house are always popping up. We rarely have a day when we go to bed feeling like there is simply “nothing left to do.” With the pressures of all these other urgent matters, it can be difficult to make each other and our kids a priority.
Related to this struggle, the late Stephen Covey in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families, said,
The place to start is not with the assumption that work is non-negotiable; it’s with the assumption that family is non-negotiable. That one shift of mind-set opens the door to all kinds of creative possibilities. (p. 118)