Friday, December 16, 2011

Grow: St. Nick and the Value of Generosity

The real St. Nicholas (not to be confused with modern day Santa Claus) was known for his generous heart. He lived in the third century in what is now modern day Turkey. Nicholas' parents died when he was young, and he gave all of his inheritance to those who were poor or were suffering. He had a compassionate heart that loved God and loved others deeply.

Some people (both Protestant and Catholic) put out stockings on December 6th to celebrate St. Nick's Day. They do this because of the following story, taken from St. Nicholas Center:

One story tells of a poor man with three daughters. In those days a young woman's father had to offer prospective husbands something of value—a dowry. The larger the dowry, the better the chance that a young woman would find a good husband. Without a dowry, a woman was unlikely to marry. This poor man's daughters, without dowries, were therefore destined to be sold into slavery. Mysteriously, on three different occasions, a bag of gold appeared in their home-providing the needed dowries. The bags of gold, tossed through an open window, are said to have landed in stockings or shoes left before the fire to dry. This led to the custom of children hanging stockings or putting out shoes, eagerly awaiting gifts from Saint Nicholas. Sometimes the story is told with gold balls instead of bags of gold. That is why three gold balls, sometimes represented as oranges, are one of the symbols for St. Nicholas. (
He ended up becoming the Bishop of Myra, and of course, later, a saint. Some say he is the inspiration for the present day Santa Claus, while many others would debate that, saying that Santa Claus was actually created to boost sales at Christmas time. Either way, it could be a very meaningful activity to talk about this Church Father with our kids in order to lead into a discussion on the values of generosity, compassion, and caring for the poor around and among us.

Additionally, it can be fun and transforming to include the kids in this season of generosity. For a lot of kids, Christmas ends up being about what they get (much to the dismay of us parents). Here are a few ways that I've come up with on modeling and practicing generosity in this season:
  • Create small ornaments (as a family) to put inside Christmas cards, saying short prayers for the recipients.
  • Consider volunteering at an outreach center as a family on Christmas morning.
  • Bake and decorate sugar cookies and then give them out on the train/subway to people who look like they need a little Jesus love. 
  • Invite people who are without family (including internationals!) in the area to your house Christmas Eve/Day, and have them to fully engage in your traditions.
  • Talk about the need of clean water in many parts of the world, and then give money to help build wells, instead of buying presents for each other. For a GREAT children's book on this topic, see
  • Visit a local nursing home with a group of friends to spread some Jesus love during this very lonely time for many of the older generation. 
  • Before holiday gifts start rolling in from family and friends, have each member choose one or two "toys" (whatever that looks like for you as a grown-up) to donate to someone else. 
These are just a couple, but I know that you have come up with some of your own, so please share them! I'd love to learn from you!


  1. We read our kids the book, "Santa Clause Are You For Real?" It talks about the story of St. Nick and emphasizes the true meaning of Christmas without making Santa Clause seem evil. --MaryAnn

  2. This looks great! I think I'm gonna need to get it for our family too. I noticed on that the author has written several books- one for halloween, one for easter, etc. have you read any of those? if so, do you think they are just as helpful?


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